What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do

 Once upon a time...20 years ago, there lived a girl who had no idea what to do with her life. She was nothing special,  average grades, average friends, just an average 18 year old girl who wanted to have a life...maybe go to off college, pick a career, find a husband a live happily ever after. **RECORD SCRATCH**  well, that's not exactly what happened... during those days back in 1995 she just didn't know what to do so she prayed...She prayed and she thought about ways she could make her life what she wanted it to be, on her own terms and she ultimately decided on using the U.S. Army as a springboard into...well...something. As these things usually go, 18 year-olds don't necessarily think through their entire life plan. 

                   20 YEARS LATER......

That girl grew up into me...the woman that I am now and what am I now? Well, I am a Soldier at the end of a successful 20 year career. I've had the pleasure of working under some of the best leaders this country has to offer and have had the privilege of training, leading, and being the official butt kicker of some of the best people on the planet. I've gotten to travel all over the world learning different cultures, meeting people, tasting food and drinks...living life and making memories.

 Professionally speaking,  I did pretty good for myself. Personally speaking, things are definitely looking damn good. I have 2 beautiful daughter who light up my world and I'm engaged to marry the man of my dreams after years of broken hearts. 

SO WHY ARE WE HERE...? Well, it's simple really...I'm in the exact same spot I was 20 years ago...I'm not quite sure WHAT TO DO.  

In this time of personal transition out of something I've been doing my entire adult life, I did the exact same thing I did 20 years ago...I prayed.  I prayed a lot and after a bit of time of self reflecting I made some decisions about what I want to do when I finally do decide to grow up. 

I'm back in college, at long last, finishing my degree and I'm enjoying the time to work on little projects and exploring my artistic and handy side...I'm a credentialed project manager and would love an actual job managing projects but as it stands right now, an opportunity hasn't presented itself. So, in the meantime, between schoolwork and networking, I'm doing something that I'd always wanted to do but never really had the time...I've started this website, What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do.  This is my way of helping you guys and gals who may feel like you don't know what to do. 

Maybe you need a little advice, it could be that you've invited Mr Right (or Miss Right...come on fellas...you can heat up a pan or two on the stove...) over for dinner and you don't know what to serve and you need a quick recipe, maybe Ms Right has morphed into Ms "How Did I Go So Wrong" and maybe you want to read about someone else's life for a spell to distract you from what's going on around you (we ALL could use a break from time to time)...I don't mind sharing...the good, the bad, and the ugly.

WHAT MAKES ME SO SPECIAL?

Absolutely nothing... BUT, I'm still willing to put myself out there to show you that you don't have to be a super Beyonce to have something to offer people. I don't know the first thing about running a website/blog/advice column and I'm also pretty new at crafting...but I'm willing to give it a good shot and see where things go. 

So...here's my first piece of advice for anyone who's not sure of what to do...no matter what the situation is and no matter who/what you believe in, I know that prayer works. If you don't believe in prayer, that's fine...quiet reflection works as well. Whatever you call it, take the time when you first wake up, when you're driving alone in your car, or out walking...it doesn't matter what you're doing really. Take that quiet time to listen to what's in your heart, listen to your gut, and trust yourself.  We often know exactly what we should be doing but sometimes it's hard to decipher with all the other distractions, pleasant or otherwise, around us. 

So, that's it...this wraps up my first installment of What to do...if there's something you want to see on this site or anything you want to talk about hit me up in the comments and I'll get right on it!

Until we meet again friends! 

Wishing you Love and Laughter

-Shereeta Maxey Young